It's so easy to think you'll find happiness once your
problems in life are all solved, of course the issue with that is there's
always another problem right around the corner just waiting to steal your
happiness. If you are going to live
happily you have to learn how to do so regardless of what problems, crisis or
event there may be. If happiness is a destination you are waiting to arrive at
then you could be in for a long arduous ride. The assumption here for people is
that happiness comes from outside of you. It does not. While there are
obviously things that happen in your life that make you feel either happy or
unhappy, the fact is that these experiences come and they go. The key to a
happy life is that it is never an outside job.
Living happily really depends on your inner world,
meaning your thoughts and emotions. Happiness is about what you think and
believe, how you feel, how problems affect you. This may sound obvious, but
often we focus instead on our external lives, on getting and spending and
“having fun” and then wonder why we are not happy. But it’s when our inner
lives are serene that we are happiest – and this is inner peace.
The difficulty is that your inner lives are based on
patterns and habits. Those beliefs that have been seeded in your subconscious
mind and control your every step. In this state you don’t choose because you’re
on auto-pilot and not consciously aware of your inner world.
So then you are tasked with the idea of reprogramming yourself
to be happy, how? First, decide to be happy and consciously choose it every
single day. This idea of course is about becoming mindful, about getting off of
auto-pilot. Mindfulness is a key inner skill because, as it gets stronger, it
lets you focus on your own inner life and catch your habits in the act. Once
you can see what those habits affect you, then the change you are seeking often
happens of its own accord. Next, value happiness, your choices are based on
your values, what matters most to you. If you regulate happiness to a low
priority in life, other choices will take precedence. Where’s happiness located
on your list relative to work, taking care of others, spending money, meditating ? Only you can change your
perception thus change how you allow your outside world to impact your inside
one!
Happiness is your natural state of being, claim it!
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